2018 In A Nutshell
The year that was, 2018 went by in a flash. Just blink and you open your eyes in 2019 already.
It’s been an emotional rollercoaster. Trying to lose weight and unwanted clutter in surroundings both physical and emotional.
Losing a parent after a decade of health struggles and finally getting the other parent to travel across the seven seas and come to a foreign land. So this year I have seen both sides of the spectrum called life and death.
Blogging and pouring my soul onto my blog, Facebook and Instagram page. Having now also developed a knack of photographing unique, queer and things that are in my perspective beautiful and timeless, could be any object or person or emotion or just nature.
Making new friends and letting go of a few, after all distance does take it’s toll and some relationships just die a natural death. I’m happy not to drag it beyond it’s expiry date, somethings are better let off on a sweet note than have a lifelong bad taste and memory of it.
Sometimes getting a shout out from old friends- a sudden message or wish, feels nice that someone has taken out time to remember you even if it’s once in six months but that’s the beauty of it, you don’t need to spoil somethings by overindulging them.
Learning to say no and not getting emotionally involved in decisions is a lesson well learnt. Some of the things in life require an unattached approach, you cannot have your cake and eat it too. Some things and people just come by for a particular reason, once the purpose is served you no longer need to sit at the table, just leave. There is nothing to be guilty of a business driven relationship and there is nothing to shy away from it.
Different people different levels of involvement and different ways of dealing is a lifesaving skill I’ve acquired. You cannot be best pals with everyone, you win some and you lose some. You can only be close to a handful and you definitely cannot please everyone, you are not an ice cream or chocolate.
People change and yes it’s a fact whether for good or bad depends on what kind of an equation you share with that person. Change is the only thing constant in human nature. Even I have changed- my reaction to a certain situation 6 years ago and now will definitely be contradicting then and now. Everyone changes over time, not only physically but emotionally too.
Keep no expectations is easier to say than do but trust me it is the best way forward. You will end up disappointed and hurt if you expect too much from any thing be it an object of pleasure or a close relation. Give everything it’s time and space to shape up and grow. Do not rush into it and ruin it. Don’t lose your self respect but keep that ego tempered down.
Family is what you fall back on. You will always have an annoying one, one most helpful one and few non committal ones but family is something that will back you up always in some way or the other. All kinds of vessels make noise but still stay in harmony on one rack.
Always pay for what you got. I’ve personally experienced that if I’ve got anything for free then the very next moment I have had to pay for something unexpected, so life has it’s funny ways of balancing it’s accounts and always keeping it fair and square so do not forget to return a compliment, say your golden words and gift people who have previously bought gifts for you and return favours. As they say there are no free lunches in this world.
Visit new places and meet new people that’s how you enrich your life’s experiences and replenish your own energy. Experience the good, the bad and the ugly first hand and draw your own conclusions and methods of coping with all kinds. Don’t be afraid to try new things but don’t push it too much, know your limits.
Try as much as possible to be emotionally, financially and physically independent it will help your self esteem and also keep you sane and grounded in your relations and keep up the best spirits in you. A happy independent you automatically contributes to a happy and lovely world around you.
Do what makes you happy in small measures at intervals, it calms and helps you focus on your goals to attain happiness. Life’s pleasures are in small details not in big filthy expensive things.
Cherish people and things. Always save up for a rainy day and know whom you can turn to when in deep troubled waters not all who are your friends will jump into the fire to save you, learn to see through and keep the real ones close.
So now that the chapter of 2018 is done and dusted with I look forward to creating more memories and meeting new people and visiting new places. Cheers to practising the pause and being detached and to emotional fulfilment and chasing your dreams and to all things that keep us healthy, happy and insanely wise.
A very Happy New Year to everyone!